BLOVED Biz: The Secrets to Success & Having it All
It’s a word we all use daily, to describe other people, to describe who we want to be. We all strive to be successful in our careers and businesses, our relationships, marriages and family life, our finances and personal achievements.
Ahead of International Women’s Day on March 8th, success seemed like an important subject to address. In our privileged world do we put too much pressure on success? And what even is it anyway?
Is success having a six-figure salary, the big house, a fast car and luxury holidays all over the world? Reaching the top of your game in your career or business, being the best, an industry leader? Or is it building a family home with food on the table and filled with love?
We throw the word ‘success’ around like it’s the most important thing in the world, but rarely do we take the time to think about what it actually means, and what is the secret to success?
SUCCESS AT B.LOVED
People often describe B.LOVED as a success. And in many ways it is, we feature beautiful content from some of the best creatives all over the world. We have thousands of followers who love what we do and have found our niche in a crowded market to share gorgeous weddings, trendy interiors, luxurious travels and enviously stylish lifestyles. We get to attend glamorous events and work with brands who fit our aesthetic and understand what we’re all about.
I’ve also been candid in my admissions that B.LOVED has not always been financially successful. I’ve struggled with balancing a business with a day-job, worked too many hours, made myself ill, stressed and anxious, and nearly given it all up. Is that the price of success?
THE EXPECTATION OF SUCCESS
For our generation, the expectation of success is greater than ever. We were brought up in families with both parents working, in single parent families, we had the answers to everything at our finger tips and we were trained to believe we could do and be anything we wanted. There was an expectation we would go university and get the best jobs, get married and have children – yet still climb the career ladder. We could have it all. And we tried.
But no-one ever thought about what that looked like – how climbing ever higher to smash the glass ceiling meant we’d put off finding someone and having children later and later, until, for some of us it became too late. Others struggle to balance family life with a demanding career, and with the guilt of leaving children in childcare. Employers still, largely, fail to accommodate flexible working hours – not just for women but for men too who are taking an increasingly equal role in family life.
Perhaps that can account for the rapid growth in self-employment in the UK, largely among women. But even that doesn’t solve the problem, to achieve financial success still means making sacrifices.
The truth is there is no secret to success. It all depends on your own interpretation.
Forget what everyone else thinks, and find the one thing that is important to you. The one thing that when you look back on your life in years to come you can say yes, my life was a success – not a constant battle to have it all.
Maybe it’s about earning enough to take your family on days out and holidays, like one of my recent coaching clients. It could be sustaining a salary you need to get the mortgage for your dream home, like me. Or perhaps it’s simply having enough to put food on the table, and spend quality time with your children.
Whatever your version of success is go out there, find it, build it, make it happen. And be happy.