My Lovely Baby Journey
Today we welcome wedding stylist Joelle of My Lovely Wedding with a fab, modern maternity session, chic outfits and her pet pooches – but also her Baby Journey story too.
“After my husband Nathan and I got married back in 2013, the subject of babies came up quite quickly. A month after our wedding I came off the contraceptive pill and we started ‘trying’ to get pregnant. It was casual and we were relaxed -I knew deep down it wouldn’t happen overnight. When after a year nothing happened, and with erratic monthly cycles I was put on Clomid to help ovulate.
The drug didn’t agree with me; it made me feel horrible and it didn’t help that I was taking clomid around the time my Nan passed away in April 2014. It was the lowest I had felt in a long time. I was also really busy with weddings and my schedule was pretty stressful. I decided not to continue and to find a different doctor. Through friends I discovered a new doctor, who did all the routine checks and confirmed that I had PCOS. I was quite surprised, as I didn’t suspect I had it, but it was pretty obvious from the scan that I did. I left feeling angry that the other doctors hadn’t picked it up. After another 3 months of doctor visits I had all the routine blood tests, scans and monitoring. I was closely watched for one month and by doing that we knew that my ovaries were lazy and I ovulated at around 25 days. Only having 8 cycles a year makes your chances of actually getting pregnant that much lower.
While I busy working on ‘project baby’ my better half Nathan was about to get promoted at work, spending long hours in the office, travelling and working weekends. I’m very supportive but at a time when I needed him on board my ‘project baby train’ he wasn’t really around. My urgency to get pregnant was not like his.
Towards the end of the summer in 2014 Nathan was also checked and we discussed making some lifestyle changes to help give us both a better chance of conceiving, but it didn’t last long as we were both so busy. At least I was being my pro active by using ovulation kits and taking notes of my monthly cycle – I was figuring out my body and I knew stress was making an impact.
Meanwhile everyone around me was getting pregnant, having baby showers or giving birth. I was deeply happy for all of my friends but a very small apart of me was sad, and I felt a tremendous amount of guilt for feeling this way. I didn’t want to feel self-pity, I just wanted a baby of my own. When you’re trying for a baby every month feels like 3 months. That moment when you’re expecting your period and it doesn’t show… your mind is in overdrive and then it arrives. Sometimes I would cry and sometimes I would get over it within a few minutes. But either way never seeing a positive sign on a pregnancy stick really really sucks.
A friends wise words
It wasn’t until we went to Canada for Christmas in December 2014 that we spent a full week with some good friends who had recently had a baby, who we instantly fell in love with, and I think it was at that time Nathan realised how much he wanted a baby too. One evening I had a heart to heart with Nikki, and she told me it was OK to feel sad. I stopped feeling bad for feeling guilty. It was ok to cry. I also realised that I’m not the only one going through this, I came to discover so many friends, and friends of friends that were going through the same thing.
Project Baby Round Two
When we returned to Dubai in January 2015 we decided that this was the year we would get pregnant. I was on project baby again. I started by juicing every day, cutting down coffee and wine during the week and trying to be as healthy as I could. Suddenly it was the end of April and still nothing had happened.
A friend shared her good news on Facebook that they were expecting a baby later that year. I burst into tears and sobbed on the bed for about 30 minutes. Nathan came to comfort me and probably realised at that moment just how sad I was that we were not pregnant yet. I suddenly felt desperate for a baby, even more so than before.
A Change of Lifestyle
We promised, again, to make some lifestyle changes and we started training 5 days a week. I felt amazing; I lost weight, toned up and felt like a new me. Wedding season was over and I had more time to relax and focus on project baby. We also went to see a fertility specialist who suggested IVF. We went to the UK for 10 days and returned knowing we would start the fertility treatment shortly after. When we returned to Dubai we discover we were know able to do IUI instead of IVF. The chances of pregnancy were lower but it was a much better option as it’s less intrusive and much cheaper too.
I left the clinic crying. The IVF was almost a guarantee but doing IUI it wasn’t. We called this the bonus round. I was scanned every 4-5 days and we scheduled the IUI for a Thursday morning. Timing was very important. I was given a trigger shot to release my eggs and exactly 36 hours later we proceeded with the IUI. We then had exactly 2 weeks to wait. It felt like the longest two weeks ever. Not knowing if we would need to be in Dubai for a round of IVF we decided to pack our bags and head to Thailand for 9 days. It was bliss, we were relaxed, happy and in vacation mode.We returned two days before the blood test and those 48 hours were painful. I was so eager to know. I was trying not to get my hopes up but a part of me couldn’t help it. I finally felt like this was our time, it was my turn to get pregnant.
I booked the earliest appointment I could, and after the test I literally sat by the phone tapping my fingers on my desk all morning. I finally got inpatient and called the clinic, I was put on hold while they connected me to the nurse. ‘Congratulations, you’re pregnant’. Those words are so clear in my mind. My eyes filled up with tears and as I put the phone down I sobbed for about 15 minutes. I was shocked, and overwhelmed with happiness. I tried to call Nathan but he was in a meeting, again I had to wait another 20 minutes to share the news but when I did he was over the moon. I called the family and everyone was delighted for us. I waited two more weeks until our first scan to tell my closest friends. At 6 weeks the baby (Foetus) looks like a lump, a little round dot in my uterus. The sound of the heartbeat melted my heart. It finally felt real. We are having a baby!”
Don’t miss Joelle’s nursery tour later this week, filled with pretty details and stylish flair!
- Photography by: Maria Sundin Photography
- Retro Crib: Just Kidding, Dubai
- Grey Chair: West Elm, Dubai
- Mid Century side table: West Elm, Dubai
- Lamp: West Elm, Dubai
- Drinks Trolley: West Elm, Dubai
- Picture Frames: West Elm, Dubai
- Gold shape Accessories: The One, Dubai
- Gold Dots: E Walls, Dubai
- Grey Giraffe Sticker: E Walls, Dubai
- White & copper Chest of Drawers: Upscaled DIY Ikea
- Side Tables: Upscaled DIY Ikea
- Bed: Crate & Barrel
- Soft toys & Accessories: Ivy Cabin, UK
- Soft toys & Accessories: The White Company
- Soft toys & Accessories: Jelly Cat
- Soft toys & Accessories: Pottery Barn